As a mom who's been through birth trauma and an OBGYN who cares for women with previous negative experiences, I know choosing the right provider is crucial for healing and having a better birth. Here's what to consider:
Hospital Privileges and Resources:
- What level NICU does the hospital have?
- What's their C-section rate?
- Do they offer VBAC if that's something you're considering?
- What lactation support is available?
Practice Style:
- Solo provider vs. group practice
- Mix of OBs and midwives
- On-call coverage arrangements
- Philosophy around birth trauma and recovery
Key Questions to Ask:
- "What is your experience with [your specific previous complication]?"
- "How do you support people who've had negative birth experiences?"
- "What do you think about birth trauma?"
Red flags include providers who:
- Dismiss birth trauma as trendy or exaggerated
- Blame negative experiences on "unrealistic expectations"
- Seem defensive when discussing previous births
Finding the right provider after a traumatic birth experience is about more than just medical credentials. It's about building a partnership based on trust, understanding, and mutual respect. Remember your non-negotiables - whether that's a specific hospital, gender preference, or practice style. While you may not find a provider who checks every single box, prioritizing what matters most to you will help guide your decision.
As both an OBGYN and a mom who has been there- I encourage you to trust your instincts. The right provider should make you feel heard, validated, and confident about your upcoming birth experience. Don't settle for less - you deserve a provider who understands your previous trauma and is committed to helping you achieve a more positive birth experience this time around.
Your journey to healing from birth trauma starts with finding the right support team. Take your time, ask the hard questions, and choose a provider who aligns with your needs and values.
